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There is one practice I’ve returned to again and again for more than fifteen years. When I feel untethered. When I’m overwhelmed. When I’ve lost contact with my own center. This tool brings me back to me every time. At their core, all therapeutic and coaching tools do the same essential thing: they help us access our own inner strength, wisdom, and capacity to heal. This practice does exactly that. Once you learn it, it’s always available to you. Why Imagery Works Your nervou

You aren’t an “avoidant.” You aren’t an “anxious attacher.” Attachment styles are not identities. They aren’t personality types. They aren’t the deepest truth of who you are. They are patterns—learned responses that developed in relationship to your early experiences. That distinction matters more than people realize. Attachment language can be incredibly helpful when it’s used with curiosity. It can help you notice how you think, how you feel, how you protect yourself, and h

There is a period in long-term relationships that feels especially hard to move through. It’s the moment when resentment starts to rise to the surface. You begin noticing the small interactions that block connection. The subtle ways you brace yourself before speaking. The moments when it doesn’t feel safe to share your heart fully. And quietly, something inside you starts wanting more. More honesty. More presence. More depth. What makes this phase so difficult is that it disr

One of the hardest truths about intimate relationships is this: You cannot control how your message lands with your partner. You can choose your words carefully. You can soften your tone. You can rehearse the conversation in your head a dozen times. And still—you don’t know how it will be received. That uncertainty is what makes hard conversations feel so threatening. Not the words themselves, but the risk: Will I be met, or will I be misunderstood? Will this bring us closer,

One of the most painful dynamics couples bring into therapy looks something like this: One partner reaches out—carefully, vulnerably, often after working up the courage to finally share what's on their heart. And the other partner becomes defensive. They explain. They deflect. They justify. They shut down. They counterattack. The partner who reached feels dismissed, alone, and increasingly hopeless. The partner who became defensive feels flooded, ashamed, and deeply misunders

Most couples come into therapy asking for better communication tools. They want the right words. The right scripts. The right “I statements.” And while I absolutely believe in choosing words carefully and speaking with sensitivity so your partner can receive your message, here’s the truth most people miss: Communication skills don’t work without emotional regulation and positive regard. You can say all the “right” things and still feel profoundly misunderstood if the energy b

If your marriage feels uncertain right now—if you’re confused, sad, resentful, or quietly wondering “How did we get here?” —I want you to know something: You’re not broken.Your marriage isn’t doomed.And you’re not alone in this experience. I’ve spent years sitting with individuals and couples who arrive in therapy emotionally exhausted, convinced they’ve tried everything… except the one thing that truly creates clarity: Turning inward. Not to blame yourself. Not to “fix it al

We can lean in and be present without taking ownership of our partner's experience... There’s a new relationship trend circulating through social media. And while it sounds emotionally mature, it’s quietly pulling couples apart. You’ve probably heard the refrains: “Not my problem.” “That’s his to heal.” “If he’s triggered, that’s on him.” These statements are delivered with confidence, wrapped in the language of empowerment and boundaries. They get likes, applause, and enthus

Most couples believe they’re fighting about chores, disrespect, tone, or communication. But clinically, that’s almost never the real issue. Couples repeat the same painful arguments because they make one critical mistake: They treat their emotional overwhelm as truth. When we’re triggered, our thoughts become distorted, our nervous system shifts into threat mode, and the person we love suddenly feels like the enemy. And here’s the thing — almost no one realizes this is happen

Most couples don’t fall apart because of one big crisis.They fall apart because of a slow, quiet imbalance that builds over time—an imbalance neither partner intentionally created, but both end up suffering from. This imbalance has a name: the invisible load. And when one partner carries it entirely on their own—the weight of it becomes unbearable. But here’s the part most couples never hear: You don’t need both partners to be “ready” for things to change.Change often begins

Meet Sarah. She’s a loving mom who tries hard— really  hard. But lately, she’s been asking herself a painful question: “Is the conflict and distance in my marriage affecting my kids?” She doesn’t want to fight in front of them. She doesn’t want them absorbing the tension. She just wants peace. Connection. A home filled with warmth—not walking on eggshells. If you’re anything like Sarah, you love your children fiercely. And you want to give them every possible advantage—emotio

Feeling suddenly repulsed by your husband after becoming a mother can be confusing, scary, and deeply uncomfortable. You may find yourself wondering: What is happening to me? Are we growing apart? Do I still love him? Is something wrong with our marriage? Can this be fixed? Take a deep breath — yes, this can absolutely be fixed. In most cases, this repulsion isn’t a sign your marriage is broken. It’s a sign that you’re overwhelmed, exhausted, and carrying far more than any on